Here's a great question for all my faithful readers to ponder...
How do you stop tantrums now (@ 13 months)? Before they blow up into the kicking-and-screaming kind.
Any "I've been there, and this is how I handled it" tips would be greatly appreciated.
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
The Terrible....Pre-Tantrums
Posted by Leah at 3:48 PM
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Here's what Matt and I do: If they whine, fuss, throw fit..whatever..They go to bed and they don't come out until they have been quiet for at least 5 minutes. And when you get to a terrible tantrum, pick your battle and fight it to the death..by that I mean..you must win the battle. Do not give in! If you do you will be one of those dreadful parents buying their child a toy or candy..every time you are in the store!!!! :) Matt and I still very clearly remember a fit that Caleb had when he was about 18months old..it lasted for 3 hours. In the end we won and I don't remember ever having one again. Well, not a really bad one anyway.
Hope that helps! We'll be praying for you!
I hate to say the s word, so I won't but you know what I mean. We always explain the wrongdoing in simple language and give lots of hugs and kisses afterward. We don't really think of it as coddling, we really are just letting Sophia know that she has received her punishment, and there is no anger or grudge to be held. I agree with Liz, don't give in, just stick to your guns and you will nip it in the bud. After being disciplined nine times out of ten Sophia is sweeter, more obedient, and loving. No lie.
I agree with Candace, and concur that it has worked with our boys too. We only do the bed thing for whining and fit throwing.
Have you and Tim read Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp:an Excellent resource for parenting!
one more thought:
If you are consistent, it WILL pay off. And your children will be a blessing not only in your home, but outside too. We often get comments from complete strangers who say, your children are so well-behaved! It is refreshing for people to see children who have been loved, and taught..in a society that is so messed up!
Yes, Liz. The other day I was in Smith's variety store (Leah, you must know how tempting this place is for a toddler running loose)and Sophia was loose and every time she grabbed for something I said "No, no sweety" or "put it back please" and she obeyed nearly every time. Some bystanders commented on how well behaved she is. Now when I say these things I am not merely bragging on my child, but agreeing with Liz that consistent discipline does work.
Leah, please come over on Friday night. Girl's night out!
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